A Book Review: Get Outta My Face by Rick Horne

Rick Horne provides an accurate view of our current situation and how parents and others who work with teens can address the issue of anger.

Both adults and teens are guilty of sinful actions and attitudes. Horne reminds us of this truth and throughout the book uses Scripture to support his suggestions. When talking with teens, we must remember that they are not the only ones who sin. We are not to ignore their sin, but by remembering our own tendencies we can open doors to reaching teens. By determining to glorify God in our interactions, we present a stance that will lead teens to open up and talk.

Horne uses many examples of interactions between adults and teens - some not so good examples and some better following his plan. Our author outlines and then suggests the following plan of action for the parent or others working with the angry teen:

Listen Big

Clarify Narrow

Look Wide

Plan Small

Listening big allows you to identify the "wise wants" that you can use to build a bridge with your teen. By pointing out to your teen that he has wise wants and has succeeded on at least one occasion, you encourage your teen to not give up. This requires you to be a reflective listener, verifying that you understand what your teen is saying. Part of this is watching your teen's body language as well as using your own in a positive way. Alternatively, the teen will say things like, "You don't understand." Or "You never listen to me."

"The purpose in a man's heart like is deep water, but a man of understanding will draw it out." Proverbs 20:5

Clarifying narrow requires the firm foundation of the bridge that you have built. Leading the teen to recognize her "wise wants" and that she has the power to choose either wisely or poorly leads helps in clarifying her situation. This process helps the teen to see the relationship of cause and effect in her choices. Obviously, her relationship with Christ will affect how she chooses and how you address her.

"Good sense wins favor, but the way of the treacherous is their ruin." Proverbs 13:15

Looking wide for your teen's solutions means finding exceptions in previous behavior. In the past, he has chosen wisely and thus produced good results. This can provide a pattern and encouragement for future choices.

Paraphrase of Proverbs 30:24-28 "Use opportunities (as ants do), places of refuge (as conies do), ability to cooperate (as locusts do), and perseverance (as lizards do) that your creator has given you." OR "look at the resources God has put in your past and present, and used them to create solutions to the challenges you face now."

Horne gives wise counsel saying that we need to recognize that resistance on the part of our teen may mean we are pushing our own solution rather than allowing him to discover his own.

Planning small reminds us that we must not expect too much too soon. Setting an achievable goal sets the stage for long-term resetting of more achievable goals. These goals must also be specific so they can be measurable.

Once your teen has achieved one small step in the right direction, you need to keep the conversation going by guiding her to continue to make specific, measurable and achievable goals. Finally, in the last chapter, the author reminds us that the ultimate goal is to point our teen to the cross.

Solomon warned young people that "there is a way that seems right to a man, but the end is the way to death." Proverbs 14:12

Rick Horne has done a great job of providing good information for parents and others as they work with angry teens. This book is a must read! Other books by Horne include: Get Offa My Case and Walking Through the College Planning Process All are available through http://www.amazon.com

Maggie Dail offers online services through the Center for Neuro Development and Family Academy Online. She and her husband, Ronnie, make their home in Bartlesville, Oklahoma. The Center is affiliated with Academy Northwest and Family Academy. They home schooled two foster sons and have worked with home schooling families for over 20 years. Maggie earned her M.A. in Special Education in 1989 and has taught for nearly 40 years.

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Academy Northwest is a state approved private extension program for homeschoolers and accredited by the Northwest Accreditation Commission. Family Academy offers an online parent course: Able to Teach

How To Earn Money Through Affiliate Marketing

Truth is... there is NO magic button to push and send Affiliate Marketers a tsunami of cash. Wish that were possible but the button only begins to work when YOU do. Most of our problems come with too many shinny objects that someone has persuaded us we must have to be successful.

Guilty as charged. I have more shinny objects sitting around waiting for me than any of us will admit. Don't do it! Save your money. Work with the ones you already have in your holding system.

NO one is going to give you the keys to the vault. IF they had all the answers their bank account would be so full of money they'd be on a cruise around the world or sitting out on the veranda of their private estate. You can be sure they are are NOT think about teaching you how to make money. Believe me, I know them personally, already have the T-shirt.

Now, let's see if we can at least find some value in this message. Affiliate marketing does offer many earning money opportunities, making it one of the fastest growing industries on the web. Billions (with a B) is earned every year. It's attractive and drawing lots of people to seek their fortune but there's plenty of room for you and me as saturation is not possible.

Whatever you choose to do, get yourself a trainer, a teacher, with the knowledge to guide you. It's serious work, not for the weak or shinny object chasers. Affiliate Marketing requires your best effort, perseverance to reach the finish line called success.

Be realistic in your expectations. Set reasonable goals that you want to achieve. Don't begin with the idea of making a million dollars in the next 30 days, it ain't going to happen. Most begin with $1,000 hope for achievement and give it their very best effort. Does everyone make it? Absolutely not! Just don't give up without giving affiliate marketing a fair trial.

Good things are happening in the marketplace. More and more people are discovering affiliate marketing which should lead to greater success. First, choosing the "right" program is step #1 before you can begin your business.

Never, NEVER, try to market a product or software without personal experience, use of the product, or some folks will consider you a fraud. It's like driving a FORD to work and trying to sell a CHEVY to your prospective customers.

Value is the key consideration for every product. Your future customers are not concerned about your commission but your personal testimony of your own successes with the product. IF you can't witness to the value, the money you've made or give me a good reason to buy, forget trying to push it over on someone else. Just good business ethics that pay huge dividends.

If the owner of the product or software fails to make any money then don't expect me to throw my money down the same rathole and lose my money, too. We're looking for something that will thrill our buyers when they follow our lead. I'd never promote an affiliate product without knowing it's proven value.

Affiliate Marketers are looking for the next goldmine, CASH COW, not a blip in the road. How often can you expect to get paid your commissions? Some merchants pay immediately while others hold on for a month or two, not very exciting to be on the wait list.

Also, it's important that you get credit for your referrals. Your merchant's website has to use cookies to track where the customer comes from or YOU will not get credit for all your referrals. Once your referral visits a site you should get all the credits due, however, that is NOT always true. Be sure to read the merchant's affiliate commissions proposal or you may come out on the short end of the deal.

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Advantages Of Reading Books Online

The online book reading is a great way to enhance and increase your knowledge in 'zero time' as with just a single click of your mouse, you can get what you want! Build a habit of reading from your laptop or iPhone to enjoy more online book reading.

The world is becoming more and more digital and you can grab all important stuff with just a hand movement or a simple mouse 'click.' The traditional method of learning gives way to fresh technology in recent decade or so. No doubt, the importance of paperback printed books is still there, but the newer digital technology revolutionized the reading and learning processes for common users. Let us see a few simple tips to learn online with just one click.

1. Search on Google with the keyword,'online libraries.'

2. Be sure to download PDFs software, usually acrobat or any other PDFs reader of your choice. Well, most of the online libraries offer PDFs format books for both downloading and reading online.

3. There is another option to read in 'text' as a Word document. However, I strongly recommend the PDFs format.

4. Once you download the book of your choice, you can also adjust the zoom settings in the PDFs reader.

5. Read as much as you can for as long as you wish!

6. Lastly, you must have the ultimate fun with this online digital book reading.

It is vital to know that plenty of websites are offering free online book reading. Try clicking as many links as you can. One other aspect is the extensive knowledge, which is shared online. You can find books in different languages and an option to read in your own language. For example, if there is a book in Russian, a classic masterpiece, you can easily convert it into your own language through online choice of language. Most probably, it will be found in English. Obviously, other languages are also there for a much thorough study.

The real fun lies in reading books freely. You have to pay nothing, no time wastage, just a click and your books are downloaded or you can read online. If you are using apple or android technology, you can easily add them or bookmark them in your bookshelf. The available books include Greek literature, English literature and of course World literature. There is another option for downloading academic books, study guides, assignments and other relevant study material. There are other search engines like Yahoo or Bing to try your luck as well, besides Google.

Getting More of What You Want - What Does Success Mean to You?

I have a very old little book with the above title, by J.H. Brennan its pages are yellowed with age and it is looking very sad, but the contents are as relevant as ever. I am pleased to say the book is still available in bookshops, so that you can take advantage of the secrets too. I came across it the other day when I was doing some clearing out and re-read it, it is about changing you life by discovering what is important to you.

Because your self-image was pretty much formed by the time you were eight years old the book explains you are capable of much more than you think you are. There are quizzes within the pages to help you re-evaluate yourself and by changing your perspective you can change you self-image.

There are mind-play techniques to improve your memory and several relaxation exercises to teach you how to deeply relax, it is suggested relaxation is the key to success. You are then shown how to use your subconscious mind to help you make all your decisions and prevent you floundering in indecision.

There are tips to help you present yourself at interviews and achieve the best jobs, and then work your way up the corporate ladder with your new confidence and techniques, and how you can have a successful future and achieve everything you desire.

What is it you want for yourself? What are your wildest dreams? Is it to climb the corporate ladder and secure one of the top jobs in the company, or maybe to work for yourself, developing a passion into a business.

What does success mean to you? Is it expensive toys, a flashy car, a big house and enormous salary or is it peace of mind, time freedom and a happy family life?

Have you ever considered running your own business? Why not build an online business in your spare-time ready for early retirement, which will also give you an interest in later years. Or would you rather push you way to the top of the ladder in the cooperate world. We are all different, with a different agenda and different views of success; sometimes our ideas change at different stages of our lives

Be sure to consider what it is your really want in your life, and the secrets within this book can help you get there. Another book to help you on your journey of self discovery is "Awaken the Giant Within" by Anthony Robbins.

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Book Review - "Smashed: Growing Up a Drunk Girl"

Book Review - "Smashed: Growing Up a Drunk Girl", by Koren Zailckas. Published by Ebury Press, U.K. 2006.

'Don't be put off by the title' my daughter told me as she handed me this book. 'It's really good, you'll enjoy it'. Normally, I would not have selected this type of book, but as I started to turn the pages, I soon knew exactly what she meant. It is a book that demands to be read. Zailckas expressed herself beautifully, often through poetic prose and in a compelling way. As each chapter unfolded into the next, I had a real sense of foreboding as I found myself caught up in her destructive lifestyle. I felt like I was one of her drinking buddies. A less able writer would have fallen victim to repetitive monotony whilst recalling events of binge drinking, but Zailckas succeeded in chronicling her memoirs in an engaging and very thought provoking way.

Very little was mentioned of Zailckas's family, except that her parents were very loving towards her as was her sister. She was obviously from an upper middle class American family, who outwardly portrayed an idyllic childhood and lifestyle. Out of respect for her family, she did not reveal too many details concerning them, instead the book targeted her drinking lifestyle, whilst in College and in University. What becomes apparent is a sub culture of young women who enjoy drinking, and even though non-alcoholic drugs are shunned, for some reason this 'elixir of life' is accepted as a normal part of society. Alcohol is viewed as a vital part of the 'rite of passage'. This book raises some alarming questions about the acceptance of binge drinking, which the author has deliberately set out to do by her brutally honest recollection of events. The reader is left wondering, 'why if she was supposedly from a stable and loving family, did she feel the all consuming need to drink?'

Her drinking career started at 14. 'Southern Comfort' was her choice of beverage as she sneaked a drink at her friend, Natalie's house. By the age of 15 she was drinking considerably more as she details events of partying with friends, losing clothes whilst drunk, and experiencing blackouts. A case of alcoholic poisoning saw her admitted to hospital to have her stomach pumped when she was 16. A night of downing shots of hard liquor had its inevitable consequence. Not only was she fighting for her life in the emergency room, but once discharged, she faced the wrath of her distraught parents. Unfortunately, it did not deter her compulsion to drink again.

Her acceptance into Syracuse University saw her joining a Sorority, 'Zeta Alpha Sigma', in her second year. Initiation rituals were part and parcel of the group. Zailckas alluded to the fact that all US campuses were alcohol soaked. She intentionally looked for other drinking companions, and so the destructive spiral of out of control drinking binges reached new highs. Detailing these drinking sessions, she refers to incidents where she stumbled home alone in vomit stained clothing, later waking in bed naked, wondering whether she had lost her virginity and to whom. Blackouts became a common occurrence as she continued to drink herself into oblivion. The blackouts continued to plague her over a number of years, accompanied by vicious hangovers that unfortunately did little to dissuade her from her chosen path. At some point, Zailckas realised the monotonous drinking coupled with the blackouts, date rapes and suicidal thoughts had to stop. She left the Sorority and became a recluse. She finally stopped drinking at 22.

Zailckas felt the need to drink, because she lacked confidence, was acutely self conscious and she felt that she did not 'fit in'. Alcohol gave her a false sense of wellbeing and whilst under its influence she felt she could cope. She managed to secure a position as a journalist in New York; however, she rejected the notion of accepting outside help to combat her addiction. Zailckas refused to attend 'Alcoholics Anonymous', because she did not believe she was an alcoholic. Readers may well reach a different conclusion. In any event, her efforts to 'go it alone' are highly commendable. To this day Zailckas cannot promise to stay sober, but is trying.

This book has captured a quintessential American girl's adolescence. The author's insight into a so called 'normal' lifestyle of binge drinking is remarkable. For many years alcohol defined her, and her lifestyle. Zailckas could not cope in social situations without being drunk. She thought alcohol was the panacea for all her troubles, all self doubts. Disturbing statistics were quoted in the book from the Harvard School of Public Health Studies. "Most girls have their first drink by the age of 12, and get drunk by the age of 14; teenage girls drink as much as their male peers, but their bodies process it badly. (They get drunker faster, stay drunk longer and are more likely to die of alcohol poisoning). Research also suggests that date rape and alcohol go hand in hand."

Binge drinking is a world-wide phenomenon increasingly affecting many societies. For many adolescents, it has become a way of life. For this reason alone, Zailckas's story should feature prominently in all school curriculums around the world. The insightfulness and engaging prose of Koren Zailckas, will resonate with teenage readers, and will prompt thought provoking questions and introspection. Too many young women succumb to peer pressure, they feel the need to meet high social standards and crave acceptance from their friends. All too often, alcohol is resorted to and abused in the hope of finding the perfect panacea for their perceived insecurities. The tacit acceptance by our communities of alcohol as an 'acceptable drug' aided and abetted by the clever marketing of the alcohol purveyors who target the up and coming generation of new consumers, has to be checked. Society can no longer afford to turn a blind eye to this ever growing problem, which is wreaking havoc amongst our children. Therefore, I highly recommend this book and congratulate Zailckas for her honesty, integrity and insightfulness. This is a story that will resonate with many young people at a cross road in their lives, as well as their despairing parents. We ignore Zailckas's message, at our peril!